Thursday, September 13, 2012

Love and Hate

I read a quote once that really resonated with me. "The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference." -Elie Wiesel

I've spent a lot of time ruminating over that quote and it is an ultimate truth. I see relationships fall apart and the couples expending so much energy spouting hate at each other. So much emotion. Do they really hate each other? They were deeply in love once. I think the love is still there, but it's been twisted and corrupted. If you no longer love someone, why would you care what they think? How they feel? What they are doing? You wouldn't. See? Indifference. You couldn't care less. You just want them to be gone from your life so you can find happiness elsewhere.  Hate is a waste of energy and emotion. You have better things to do with your time.

So my message is this... if you are considering breaking up with someone, ask yourself - do you still care what they think? How they feel? What they are doing, and with whom? Then think about their answers to those same questions. Love is, after all, a two way street. You can have all the love in the world for someone, but there can't be a relationship if they don't feel the same way. Are they indifferent toward you? Do your feelings no longer matter? Do they hurt you?  Then stop wasting your time and find someone who will cherish you.

I firmly believe there is someone out there for everyone (and often more than one someone.) The search for love should never stop until you find the one who makes your life complete.

I feel blessed that I found my love. How do I know he loves me? Because he cares. He shows me every day in so many little ways. I hope he feels the same from me. I care more than I could ever express with mere words.

1 comment:

Donna H. said...

Well said my friend!