Wednesday, October 05, 2011

Costume Dilemma

So...when I thought both boys were going to dress up as Angry Birds for Halloween, I laughed and was pleased. Then Max changed his mind to a train from Chuggington. Ok.  Not as cool, but if it makes him happy. Now he tells me he wants to be Strawberry Shortcake. Um. Ok. Now I am flashing back to last Halloween and the mom who blogged about her 5 year old son dressing in a "girl" costume (Daphne from Scooby Doo) and all the flack she got from other moms at his school. I want Max to express himself in any way he likes. I have no problem with him dressing as Strawberry Shortcake. He loves the cartoon. Every girl in his class is a "him" in casual conversation - he hasn't made a full distinction between the sexes yet.

If he thinks his choice to dress as Strawberry Shortcake is just as valid as a bird, a train, or a video game character named Mario...who am I to disagree?  I don't have a problem with long pink hair. He will look totally adorable. I just worry a tiny bit about what his preschool classmates will say. I worry a bit more about what his teachers might say. I worry a LOT about what random neighborhood kids out trick-or-treating will say. I worry most about what parents who answer the door Halloween night will say. If they call Max a little girl, he will correct them. He knows that fact well enough. Will they have the tact and good grace to just say sorry! and give him some candy? Or will they take the opportunity to lecture my poor husband about gender identity or yell at him for making his son "gay" or some crap?

I can hope that my town will rise to the occasion and just keep their opinions to themselves. I can just hear about the rumors at the next HSA meeting (kinda like a PTA, for those who wonder.)  I can trust that they won't ruin Halloween for an impressionable 5 year old who sees nothing wrong with dressing as his favorite cartoon character. I can hope.

He might change his mind again by the time we hit the store this weekend. We shall see.

Monday, October 03, 2011

Max Turns 5

Just a few months ago I was reflecting on Max being 4. Where does the time go? Today he turned 5 years old. Next year he will start Kindergarten. Having both boys attending the same school will be so odd! In a weird way, it will seem like Max is catching up to Tyler (he is always trying to do that.)

Max will tell you he's had a great day today. Fall theme cupcakes at school (he still has orange frosting around his mouth) and a pile of gifts to open when he got home. Nana and Grampy watched the gift opening via Skype.  He had a mini party with his Grandma Lois yesterday and a family party with Red Lobster tonight (and cake!). He loves the Cars 2 race track he got from mommy and daddy (with Mater and Prof. Z from Tyler), new clothes from Nana and Grampy plus yet another race car (that works with the new mom has ESP), added to the presents he received from Grandma Lois yesterday - coloring book, puzzle, Thomas pillow, talking Gordon train, and a hand made Angry Birds hat (she is a crochet genius!) he is in hog heaven right now.

The hat is a total scream!  I was shopping for party ideas on Etsy a couple weeks ago (Max wants an Angry Birds theme) and he spotted a crocheted bird hat and went bonkers. I sent the link to Grandma Lois and she was able to whip out a close approximation in no time flat! Max dances with glee every time he puts the hat on. It's a riot! See for yourself:

He is over the moon. And I haven't even finished planning his friend party yet! I wanted to give him time to get to know his new classmates. It's hard having a birthday so close to the start of the school year. I think we are doing a costume party Halloween weekend. Save the date peeps!