tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19022044.post113217686709188105..comments2023-11-23T16:09:46.548-05:00Comments on Where Life Takes You...: AdoptedBeckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16689649366003513145noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19022044.post-1132414080221877332005-11-19T10:28:00.000-05:002005-11-19T10:28:00.000-05:00Wow. Your little comments on my blog has led me t...Wow. Your little comments on my blog has led me to a long Saturday morning, pouring through YOUR posts.<BR/><BR/>I'm not sure if I'll find an update on your search for your bio mom. Just wanted to share my little story.<BR/><BR/>Both my father and FIL are adopted. My dad found his bio father just past his 50th birthday. My FIL wants nothing to do with his bio parents. His reasoning? How it would make his parents feel. They're both gone now, but he feels like it would be such a betrayal to them.<BR/><BR/>So, one of OUR children is adopted, and we are in a fully open adoption with her birth parents. We've learned so much in the last several years about the damage of closed adoptions. Even when a birth parent is in a really bad place, the child still needs that information. It gives them answers. Sadly, a lot of adoptive parents, for decades, don't see the value in those answers. <BR/><BR/>It's hard to be an adoptive parent. You can't help but be a little jealous that someone else was able to carry them in their body - bring them life. You have to force yourself to be unselfish for your child. However, your story just reminds me of why we have the type of adoption we do. I have no fears that my daughter will run away to her birth mom one day. Mom is Mom. Dad is Dad. However, birth family is still an important connection. You can't be afraid of it.<BR/><BR/>I'll keep digging through your posts. <BR/><BR/>OH - and if you need a bold person to make phone calls, I'm your man (er ... WOMAN!).Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07276000726366302069noreply@blogger.com